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I am studying Psychology and Sociology at Utah Valley University, and working at a treatment center for troubled teens. I love life, being with people from all cultures, speaking Spanish, and traveling all over the world. I will never stop laughing, dancing, singing, enjoying, appreciating, and just being.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

As human beings, we are programmed to love and be loved.

"All you need is 
L O V E."

How to feel, find, and foster genuine and lasting LOVE.

1.  LOVE yourself!
-be healthy, happy, stable, secure, sure, positive, loving, kind, and whole with yourself.

 2.  Seek Safe Relationships

"How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk"  -John Van Epp

Relationship Attachment Model:  
five bonding dynamics; know, trust, rely, commit, touch

-all dynamics must be in balance at all times
-safe relationships promote healthy choices

3. Investing and Maintaining Healthy Relationships

A) Make time
B) Express admiration, appreciation, and affection
-give honest and sincere appreciation
("How to Win Friends and Influence People" -Dale Carnegie)
C) Capitalize on a good fortune
D) Manage conflict
-don't criticize, condemn, or complain
-arouse in the other person an eager want
("How to Win Friends and Influence People" -Dale Carnegie)
E) Share an inner life

Do not f e a r.  Be healthy yourself, seek healthy people and a positive relationship that make you and the other person happier and better, and CONSISTENTLY work on bettering yourself and your relationship with the other person so you are able to inspire one another to become stronger, happier, and healthier people.  When you remember these three steps and apply the material in each one, you will fill up your soul, mind, and heart with true and lasting love.  It is out there, it is real, and it is for you.  Just remind yourself those things and never think that you can live in dysfunctional, uneven, love patterns that is forcing you to believe that you are accepting a "love" that you deserve.  Remember... In true LOVE, there is NO fear.

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